In this solo episode, Kylie dives into the pressure to follow external timelines, business rules, and “expert advice” - and why none of that matters if it doesn’t match your felt sense.

This is a grounded, honest conversation about cyclical energy, seasonal rhythms, and why forcing yourself to operate like everyone else is often the fastest way to burn out or disconnect from your genius.

If you’ve ever felt behind, out of sync, or like your business energy doesn’t match what the internet says it “should” look like, this episode is for you.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why January doesn’t feel like a “new year” for everyone

• Seasonal energy cycles and how they actually show up in real bodies and real lives

• Why rest, retreat, and integration are not failures - they’re part of sustainable success

• The problem with one-size-fits-all business advice

• What it really means to honour your resources, energy, and nervous system

• How undefined identity (hello, Blurpreneurs 👀) can amplify conditioning in business

• Why human design and astrology are tools for self-trust, not external authority

• The danger of outsourcing your inner knowing to systems, coaches, or strategies

• Breaking free from old paradigm business rules and building in alignment instead

This episode is an invitation to stop forcing yourself into someone else’s spring when you’re clearly in a winter - and to start listening inward instead.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Get your free True Sky Human Design chart 👉 www.kyliepatchett.com/freechart

Explore Genius U - Voice + Visibility readings & reports 👉 www.kyliepatchett.com/genius

TRANSCRIPT - S6E27: Cyclical Business + The External Advice Trap

Kylie Patchett: [00:00:00] no matter what you believe, what is most important is your lived experience. So in your body. What cycle do you feel like you're in?

Welcome to Wild and finally fucking Free the show for disruptors, rebels, and revolutionaries who know they're here to change the damn world. I'm Kylie Patchett, your voice and visibility catalyst, and here we dive into unapologetic truth, magnetic messaging and visibility. That actually feels good. In your body, your bones, and your business.

We share the stories of the out of the box, neuro sparkly, creative, witchy, wild ones, rewriting how we live, love, learn, and lead. This isn't about being louder, it's about being rooted, resonant, and regulated, so you can be real raw and ready to raw. If you're done, contorting yourself to fit the mold and you're ready to own your voice, your power, and your place in the [00:01:00] revolution, welcome home.

Let's dive in.

Kylie Patchett: Hello friends. Welcome to another solo edition. It's been a little while since I've just been talked talking to you directly without a guest. I hope you've been enjoying the guest interviews lately, and I come to you just before the start of. The new year for 2026. If you are not following the Gregorian calendar that said that, you know, we are, it's February the 10th today, right?

So. If you follow the Gregorian ca calendar, I can hardly say that word, which is just a line in the sand that someone put there that suits some people, but not necessarily others. Uh, then 1st of January obviously is when we click over and say, woo, it's 2026. But for me. And I dunno whether it's because my birthday's at the end of January, but it always feels like January is like a tidy up month.

Things coming to completion. And then I always feel this quite a big shift of energy. And what I put that down [00:02:00] to is more so that. For me, for someone who knows and loves traditional Chinese medicine, the way of looking at the new year through the lens of more Chinese astrology makes more sense to me.

So I have always felt like Chinese New Year is more where my felt sense of a fresh energy and a new start for the year. And this year is no different. The other thing, too, that I wanna mention is. You know, I have been speaking about true sky astrology and human design versus tropical astrology and human design.

Tropical astrology and human design are based on pinned points that are now no longer accurate. So when the collective is saying, Neptune's moving into blah, blah, blah, if you actually look up at the real sky, that is actually not what's happening. So generally, most human design and astrology is based on something that was correct, 300.

Sorry, thousands of years ago, around 300, I never remember whether it was 80 or BC [00:03:00] anyway way ago. Right. And now we know that because of the wobble of the earth, which is called the pre-session of the equinoxes, each year, there is a slight change in the amount of time that that process takes to happen from beginning to end from one spring Equinox, which is currently according to tropical astrology pinned.

And the other thing that I'm still in a rabbit hole about trying to figure out is the spring equinox, which is the start of the Zodiac, in inverted commas, heavy inverted commas, has been pinned to the spring equinox in the Northern hemisphere, which is where zero degrees Aries used to be, thousands of years ago.

Now, where does that leave All of us that live in the Southern hemisphere. Because I hear all the time and it drives me bonkers. I'm gonna be really, really honest. It's been like a soapbox I've been getting on lately, and I actually looked at the numbers. This is interesting. So there's 8.67 billion people in the world [00:04:00] according to Google.

When I was looking at this the other day, and no, sorry, I'm not sure if I've got that figure correct, but there's 6.97 billion and change. In the Northern Hemisphere and only one point something billion in the southern hemisphere. So I'm like, is the fact that the entire planet seems to talk like the only time a spring equinox happens is the spring Equinox in the Northern Hemisphere?

Meanwhile, I'm sweating my. Eyebrows off down here in the southern hemisphere. And so when people say, oh, you know, January's not the start of the year, the spring equinox is, I'm like, but the spring equinox for us is in September. So does that mean that we have to flip our astrology on its head? Or we are saying that No, we are not in 2026 until September, or we've already been in 2026 since September.

The whole thing actually does my head in. But anyway, long story short. I think that the most important thing is feeling into [00:05:00] your felt sense in your body of what cycle you feel like you are in. So I know, and I've shared many times on this podcast that my energy is so much higher in spring and summer in the southern hemisphere compared to what it is in order my kind of start slowing down.

But in wintertime, I go into full on hibernation mode. Now, as you'll hear later, that's not gonna be an issue this year 'cause something is changing. But for me, my felt sense is I always get an upsurge of energy in springtime here. So around the end of August, beginning of September, when we start getting warmer days, and I start this like.

I feel like there's this spring energy. So in traditional Chinese medicine, the spring energy is about the beginnings of things. So often we'll launch like my flagship programs in September because that's when I feel the upsurge of energy, right? And then this time of the year, I, I almost always get. A feeling, and especially this summer in Australia, this summer, or at least [00:06:00] where I live, which is in Queensland, our summer has been long and it has been hot way longer than it usually is.

So usually we start getting high thirties, early 40 days, which is like 95 to about 105 Fahrenheit for those of you who don't know what Celsius is. And usually that's from maybe some days in December, and then we have. Most of our high heat days in February and then autumn comes. I know you guys call that fall, but you know, autumn comes and it starts to feel better.

So usually we have this beautiful springtime September, October, November where it's warm, it's, you know, you're starting, or I feel in my lived experience that my body wants to move more. My brain is more active. I often get good, um, like creative ideas, often in excess. Um, and. There's this lull between the winter hibernation and this really high part of summer, but this year, country, Queensland, Australia [00:07:00] just skipped completely the springtime completely.

We went from cold winter to weeks and weeks and weeks, and it continues now weeks and weeks of above 35 degrees, which is, I think that's a roundabout. It's low nineties say. Um, and I just get to the stage in that high summer period where I go through another dipping energy and then around about the middle of February when things start to, you know, you can, it's not that our days are much cooler, but you definitely get that feeling of autumn in the air.

Like I was out early this morning walking my dog and was like, oh, like I don't need a jumper, but I can feel the autumn like breeze coming in. Right? And that is when I'm like, oh, thank goodness. Then I have a fresh surge of energy again, which kind of feels like the New Year surge, and then rinse and repeat.

No matter what you believe about tropical astrology, tropical human design, what is the start of the year? Um, I guess the other date to throw at you too is the beginning [00:08:00] of the true sky or true cerial human design year. Um, when the gate that starts, the human design year comes in is February 23rd, where I live.

It may be the day before for anyone up top because obviously Australia is further ahead than most of the world. Um, chinese New Year. I'm pretty sure this year is the 16th or the 17th of February. And then we've got the human design New Year in true Sky, which is the 22nd, 23rd, and then people that believe in tropical astrology and human design will have other dates.

I think personally, no matter what you believe, what is most important is your lived experience. So in your body. What cycle do you feel like you're in? And you know, I am often saying to clients, never make the mistake of comparing your winter to someone else's spring, because we all go through these cycles.

Whether it is like a cycle, a life cycle thing like, most women will have a change in energy around the menopausal transition or [00:09:00] perimenopause. If you're still cycling period wise, you might have very clear seasons of that. However long your menstrual period is, where you're like, oh, today I feeling, less outward and less.

Energized. And then other days I'm like, Ooh, okay, let's go. Let's start projects. And then of course there's lunar cycles, et cetera. Anyway, I don't even know why I started that entire conversation. That was like a big side quest, I think, just to say. I don't feel like it's been the new year yet. And I also am really, really clear that I have been in a like retreat stage, like I haven't.

Had any desire to share on social media? I've actually had social media off my phone. It must be for almost four weeks. And there is a voice in my head going, hello, you need to talk to people. 'cause otherwise, how do they know you're there? But there's a bigger part of me that's just going, you know what?

Just trust. Trust life. Trust your life. Force [00:10:00] energy and trust that if you don't have anything to say, you don't have to say anything. And this is something I would say to everybody in marketing. I am a big non-believer in the idea that everyone markets the same, everyone has the same energy cycles, et cetera.

And that's why I folded in Tru Sky, human design into voice and visibility and the magnetic messaging, and even wealth and visibility energetics. Because to me, when I look at a chart, I can see the flow of your energy. And the ways that you are most likely, and it's not a prescription, it's not a rule box, but the ways you are most likely to want to cycle through in terms of what is the better marketing strategy that might fit you better, what is something that will most likely be in Achilles heel visibility wise, unless you are already, unless you have already done the work to move into the, the higher expression.

I really hate using higher or lower expression. Because to me [00:11:00] they're both really important and I don't like hierarchy. So how am I gonna say that

I like to use the terms? Well, I mean, my, my human design teacher, El Fs uses genius and challenge, which I do love. I would almost wanna say genius and invitation. Because the geniuses, when you are in, you know, the highest expression if you use the gene key language, that's more like the gift in the city.

But what I don't love about anything that is a hierarchical thing is that people miss the understanding that the gift, the genius, the city, whatever it is, comes from, comes out of the mud of the shadow, right? You don't get to one without experiencing the other. And I think that that's, you know, my biggest.

Issue with toxic positivity bullshit that you see on the internet sometimes. Is that. Constantly saying to someone, oh, you need to fix yourself, [00:12:00] or, oh, you need to only feel positive things or affirmations will work. Well, that's great, but that's only one half of being human. Like you chose to be in a skin suit for a reason, right?

You came down here to have a, an experience in a physical body, and with that comes the shadow and the light, the genius and the challenge, the things that you find easy and the things that you don't necessarily, and. I feel really, really strongly that when we are trying to get people to focus on one size fits all strategies or saying to them you need to be in a summertime when you are not, you're in a wintertime, is really important.

The other thing I'm feeling into with my design and if you've listened to me bang on about True Sky before, you'll know that in Tropical Human Design I came out, come out as a three five sacral generator. Very specific way of being in the world. Again, not rules based. But I have spent, you know, a couple of years feeling into that kind of identity.

And one of the biggest things that I [00:13:00] found with it is that some parts made sense to me and resonated and what agreed with my felt sense of being Kylie, but other parts didn't. So it didn't feel a hundred percent aligned. And then when I came across Tru Sky, in Tru Sky, my type is a six two splenic. I was gonna say projector.

No, a six two. Splenic manifesta. So I feel like from the beginning of starting the human design certification that I'm currently doing, which is Intuitive human design, um, certification with Elena Fs, and I think the wait list is open now. So if you're interested in learning human design, but you do not wanna learn it through the lens of dogma or the lens of.

Tropical, which doesn't match what's going on in the sky. If that makes no sense to you, um, then you definitely need to check it out. And I will put that link in the show notes. Let me make a note. Um, so yes, since I've started that training and since I have been feeling into, [00:14:00] do I identify with being a six two manifester, particularly splenic, and I have to say that.

If you'd asked me that about six months ago, I would've said,

do you know what? My honest response to that when I asked that, what comes up the like itty bitty shitty committee in my head is you wouldn't have thought that you were a role model. The two. Absolutely. But the six, and especially now having just turned 51 a couple of weeks ago, I would have struggled to feel into the identity of a role model.

I have to say over the last six months as I've been feeling into things, I actually do highly resonate with both, and I'm noticing that when I challenge my own rules about how I do business and even relationships, [00:15:00] and I actually go, I wonder what it would be like. If I didn't have this condition in my head that said once upon a time, not too long ago, I would not be standing here saying, I haven't spoken on social media for, I don't know, months now.

Um, because I had a rule in my own head that said, to be successful in business equals consistency in marketing. Like you have to be showing up, blah, blah, blah, blah. And now I'm feeling into that two line and I'm feeling into. My very high need for retreat and my very high need for

like a lot of integration and processing time. And then the other thing that's been happening practicality wise is my website has been a two month project to get from one platform to the other platform. And so that has taken up a lot of my energy and focus and it's been [00:16:00] such a juicy journey because I've also had the chance to start decluttering.

So I've only been back in business since 2023. So a couple of years. Yeah, two and a bit years. October 23, I was, but in that time, I have already accumulated a whole heap of stuff that did not feel like it wanted to come with me in the next season. So yes, the website was a huge project, but I feel like I've cleared so much space.

Like I really have had this filter of like, and actually my filter for this year, like one of my big guiding, um, words is joy. And so one of the things I've been asking myself is. Does this offering, does this way of providing this service, does this service itself bring me joy? Does it feel like it is me and my genius?

Or is it me trying to squish myself into a particular box? Or the other thing is has it comes to the end of its season? Like has it just come full circle and it's come back to, okay, we are [00:17:00] done. And so I've been doing a lot of that very intensive foundational work in my business, and I just haven't felt like I've wanted to come out and play.

What I am noticing is that when I do not choose to push through based on a condition that I have, like marketing that my system has, I've had this overwhelming, almost ratcheting down of my nervous system. Now, that also has to do with. Again, some practical family matters that have become more sorted in the last little while.

Thank goodness. Thank you. But I do feel like this really strong ratcheting down of my nervous system and. I don't wanna simplify it and say that's because I'm allowing myself to live as a six two manifester. I think that's way too simplified. But I will say that a significant part of the journey from being a three five generator or trying to make that work [00:18:00] versus actually understanding that, and also as a manifester, I'm not meant to be.

Like chugging through, like I always have done that. I really need to work on being reverent with my resources. And I've had a lot more rest too. And again, that contributes to the ratcheting down. So I guess where I'm coming from, that's been a long winding journey of saying, how are you? Doing in business in terms of being reverent with your resources.

So making sure that you are in your genius zone, making sure that you are doing marketing activities in alignment with the way that you're designed and what makes, makes sense for you. What feels accessible? Are you still trying to fit like one size fits all? Whether it's from a particular coach you're working with or a particular way of doing business or something.

And this is definitely for the blur preneurs out there. If you haven't done my quiz, kylie [00:19:00] patcher.com/quiz if you wanna figure out what your visibility Achilles heel is. But one of them is the blow preneur and often a Blair preneur doesn't have this fixed sense of identity. So what we can do, and that includes like I have that center, undefined, the G Center.

So if that's similar, this is where a lot of conditioning can turn up. It doesn't, it is not as simple as undefined center equals visibility block, but that is the pattern that I do see most of the time in my clients. So for a blur printer. What will happen is that when you don't have a clear sense of identity, the risk I guess is when you're being exposed to a lot of other people's messages.

And this is one of the reasons why I chose to disconnect from social media A, because it was just feeling ick and also was using it as a numbing and dumbing strategy, which I don't love. I don't love it when I get into that. 'cause I'm like, what are you not being present for? What are you trying to avoid?

Like how about we actually. Allow ourselves to feel our emotions instead of shoving them down by [00:20:00] scrolling on a phone every night for like an hour. Just because but also when I am exposed to a lot of other people's messages, there is definitely a part of me that's like, oh, that's worked for her. I'll borrow that.

And it's like, hang on a minute. A, do you want to do it like that? Does it feel like it's aligned to your values? Is it aligned to your energy? Is it something that actually is going to allow you to be in your genius? Or are you making another box, another condition, another rule that says to be a good business owner, you have to do it this way?

So I think that is my like hashtag whole point of this episode is no matter what system, including astrology, human design or coach, including strategy, including one size fits all the whole point. Of working with a system like human design is to get to know yourself. It is not to use it as an external source of authority.

It is [00:21:00] to filter it through your known system. So if you not feel like there is a fresh vibe of being in a new year or a new season or a growth season, then you are not. Just because other people in the world say X, Y, Z does not mean that you have to, and the human design dogma that I see, like you are a manifester, therefore you have to do that.

I'm like, come on guys. Like there's, you know, almost 9 billion people in the world. We can't just use five buckets. Five types in human design, and then say, because you fill in these five buckets, then that's how you have to behave. There's so much more nuance in human design chart, like the buckets, the types, and the authority is like.

The least important, least interesting part of the way that you are designed energetically. The nuance that's underneath all of that. And this is why I'm loving Genius U readings, because every single reading is different. Every single reading is helping [00:22:00] the beautiful human in front of me to really get underneath.

Is there something that's a challenge? Is there something you wanna move towards? Is there something that feels like it's a block or unattainable and using. Your human design chart as just one tool, one kind of ball of wool to pull on so that we can actually help you to get to know yourself.

Self-mastery, self-compassion, self-awareness, self-love, surrendering to who you are. And likewise with any coach, like I'm always saying to my clients like, this is the way that. I, you know, this is what I would guide you to do, or this is what maybe I could suggest. But the first thing I'm always gonna say is, how does that feel for you?

Like, you know, deliver X, Y, Z. Someone asked me a question, I give a response. How does that feel for you? Because if you are not feeling it in your own body, you are just creating another cage to put yourself in, and every time you put yourself in a cage. Whether it's a system or a mentor, or a strategy or a [00:23:00] one size fits all business model, all you're doing is stealing your own individual self-expression and your own individual energetics and mastery and genius coming out in the world.

So no matter what cycle you feel like you're in, or no matter where you're actually getting your external advice, super important to feel it through your body. Now that is a very long way of getting you to the whole point of this episode, which is to say, in my retreat period feeling into how I'm using my resources and all of those things, my husband and I had a little conversation that sparked an idea and so, and a, a bit of background about that.

Actually, I don't think I'm gonna share that in this episode.

So I think that's all I wanna say. External versus internal. [00:24:00] External versus internal, like external answers, external validation, external conditions around whether you can feel confident or feel like you've got a successful business versus your internal felt sense. And what does success even mean to you and what does feeling like you have a sustainable soul fuel business mean to you because it's not gonna be the same for you.

I do have very exciting news with a new website. I have some new offerings, but I've also got a free True Sky Human Design calendar. Sorry, calendar chart on there. Um, so if you go to kylie patchett.com/free chart, all one word, you can actually get your True Cerial human design chart. If you're familiar with human design and you wanna just compare and kind of feel it through tropical might feel like the right system for you, but if you've never looked at your true sky chart and you're curious, I wanted to put that on my website so that it gave you the [00:25:00] opportunity to check it out for yourself. So I'll put that link down below. Um, the other thing is if you are interested in understanding your own design through the lens of True, um, I do still have Genius u readings and reports.

So the report is. Just a standalone. I read your chart. It's all through the lens of voice and visibility. So all about, um, specific parts of your chart that give you, um, understanding about the ways that you're meant to market, the ways that you're meant to be, um, structuring your business and also the core things that ideal clients will.

Ideally want from you and the way that your energy flows. So that's an overall report. Then you've got the chance of adding on an intuitive coaching session with it as well, if you so desire. Uh, they are still half price at the moment. I'll probably do that until the end of March. I'm having such a wild time.

Just, I'm such a learn like. I learn and embody by doing. And [00:26:00] so just having many, many, many charts, many, many, many beautiful humans, many rebel entrepreneurs and the chance to actually do live sessions where you get to bring your challenge or your genius or your expansion desires, whatever it is, like what's kind of feeling like it's important, and then we look at it through the lens of this chart.

And you get to respond live to, how can I put this into action? What does that mean for me? Is there ways that I can try emphasize, embodying this to see whether it actually feels true for you? What I love about this is it is the end of business done the same old, same old, because we all know the paradigms in this world are shifting and they're shifting rapidly, rapidly.

And if you want to be building a business and being a leader of new paradigms, you've gotta stop doing it the old paradigm way. And the old paradigm way says it has to be a certain structure, it has to be a certain way. A successful business looks like X, Y, Z. [00:27:00] It's all bullshit. Break the rules, break the mold.

You're here to be yourself. So if that feels juicy to you, I would love to have you for a genius you. And, um, thanks for listening. It's been very cool to reconnect and yeah, I hope you're having a beautiful day.

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