The biggest voice + visibility blocks for entrepreneurs won’t be fixed by strategy - not when, underneath the surface, you don’t yet feel safe to be seen, heard, and richly rewarded just for being you.
This 3-part series is for the creative, artistic, rebel, revolutionary, and paradigm-shifting entrepreneurs who know they’re here to disrupt the rules and do big heart-led work in the world - but keep getting tripped up by invisible patterns that silence their truth, dull their magic, and shrink their impact.
The Anti-Entrepreneurs system was first designed in 2015 as a way of naming these learned limitation patterns through the lens of chakras, Five Element Theory and Traditional Chinese Medicine and Human Behaviour Coaching and released in my second book Making Friends with Fear: An Entrepreneur's Guide to Overcoming Fear of Failure, Fear of Being Seen and Other BS Business Beliefs
Today, it has evolved with an added layer of Human Design for voice + visibility - and layered into a framework that shows you not only the fears that hijack your business, but also the Freedom Frequencies available when you reclaim your truth.
These archetypes aren’t who you are. They’re who you learned to be to stay safe. Which means you can unlearn them - and hand the mic back to your unapologetic, wild woman self, so you’re free to build the impact, influence, and income that’s truly available when your business is soul-fuelled, sustainable, and aligned with your unique design, flow, and energetics.
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Meet the first five Anti-Entrepreneurs in action:
- Dreampreneur - always dreaming, never moving.
- Shinepreneur – chasing shiny objects instead of her own truth.
- Perfectpreneur – polished into silence.
- Blurpreneur – shapeshifting until she loses her essence.
- Comparapreneur – forever coming up short.
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S6E6 - The Anti-Entrepreneurs Mini-Series - Part 2/3
[00:01:00] Hi, friends. This is part two of, uh, a little mini series on the podcast, introducing you to the different visibility or voice invisibility. Patterns of learned limitation. Uh, if you haven't already listened to the first part of this series, um, that's basically where I kind of set out the rules of reality around here, and also the difference between when your wild woman is running the business bus, which then creates a soul field, sustainable version of success versus when.
These core fears are running the show. And I also wanna introduce them through the lens of, again, just reiterating what I said in the first part, which is these are learned limitations. They are actually not the truth of who you are. So I don't want you to kind of feel, um, over identified with them. These are just, they're patterns of behavior.
That's the best way that I can describe it. We will all have threads of every single one of these nine. Now, if you're into [00:02:00] human design, you will probably notice that there's a bit of a pattern with the conditioning that can happen when a center in human design is either open or undefined. Um. Li lines up with these patterns.
I don't wanna get into the human design too much of it because I don't want this system to depend on you having a huge body of knowledge on something else. If you don't already, you don't need to understand where it comes from. And actually, this system I created like 10 years ago, and it's layered with many different modalities.
And human design is just the latest, like apple strudel layer, layer upon layer. Um. So yeah, keep that in mind. So you are most likely going to have threads of all nine of these, but one or two of them will be what I call your Achilles heel. Now your Achilles heel and voice and visibility is just the pattern that rises to the surface when you are aiming to expand.
How many people see here and recognize [00:03:00] you and your work? Incredibly important because I mostly work with people that would identify as paradigm shift as rebels and revolutionaries, which means that by definition we are pioneering. We are pioneering new ways of doing business, new ways of. Uh, offering and marketing ourselves, and also new ways of living, loving learning, leading in our, you know, in our work.
We are the ones that are here saying, you know what? This is not working. The current system of doing this is not working here is a different way of doing it. It also means by definition that it's kind of like, you know, people think it's impossible and then they make fun of people that are on right at the forefront of change.
And then finally people are like, oh yeah, of course. And I always kind of liken it to the like. You know, once upon a time you used to have to be put in jail if you thought that the world was round. So for us paradigm shifters, there's always gonna be an edge where potentially we might be thought of as a little bit cray cray.
So bear with me as I am speaking through [00:04:00] all of these. You can kind of do a little bit of a self kind of check in. Does that feel true to me? And I will guarantee, like there was some people in raw life, I have to say, that were like, um, I feel like I'm all of them. But as we went through, one or two became really clear that they were the, like the current Achilles heel.
The other thing I will say. Excuse me, is that I find that like I have two main patterns over preneur that I have been talking about on the podcast for a while, is one of them. The second one is the blur preneur, and I'll talk to that when we get to it. But we'll just do these nine in two separate parts.
So this is gonna be a three part series. I was gonna try and do it quickly, but um, I cannot do this quickly because I need for you to understand the foundations of it. Okay. So we're gonna start at the top. This is a dream preneur. Now, it was very interesting to me of the people that have responded to the quiz that we have that goes with this kind of system, which you can get@kyliepatcher.com slash quiz.[00:05:00]
The quiz actually the results that I can see, so there's about, I think there's two. I don't know more. Well, there was 180 responses last time I looked, and I know there's been more come through my email. So let's say around about 200 people. Interesting. These top two were the highest ones. So Dream Preneur and Shine Preneur.
So Head and Arj know if you kind of know the, yeah. Human design thing. So the dream preneur. Is someone who has their head in the clouds. They really love ideating. They're big visionary thinkers, and they're driven by this core fear of fear of success. So when I meet someone who is showing like dream preneur patterns, they're often someone who's got this equation in their head that means.
Actually deciding on one idea to make manifest and focus on number one, stops me from ideation, ideating, which is kind of like where I naturally wanna sit, right? 'cause that's fun, that's juicy. [00:06:00] And it's, it's like planning, planning, planning, but not doing, doing, doing. Um, but that means something will cost me.
So the fear of success is like, this is gonna cost me. Either my family time or my freedom or my identity, or a lot of dream preneurs believe that if more people, like if they choose one thing and more people get to know them, there's a lot of responsibility behind that. The nervous system imprint for this one is inspiration overload, equal safety, choosing one thing.
'cause the, the energy of the dream printer is like the energy is up here in the clouds, but, but I'm not, I'm not choosing something to make manifest. I'm not grounding anything in. I'm like getting carried away with almost the mental masturbation of ideating, but actually I won't back myself enough to bring it down here.
She's learned that narrowing, her focus feels like something precious is going to be lost. And she chases. She chases clarity and thinking [00:07:00] about it and planning, and these are the people that have got notebooks and notebooks full of like big brain dumps. And then they're just onto the next brain dump, like there's no kind of putting it into action.
She's not chasing clarity because she's uncommitted. She's chasing clarity because to her keeping possibilities open and up here in the ether is actually more safe than choosing something and bringing it down into reality. So she might say things like, I've got millions of ideas, but none of them feel solid enough.
I'm waiting for the right download. I'm waiting for the perfect clarity before speaking, or this is the all or nothing of the dream preneur. I'm launching five things at once, and so my energy is so scattered. No one has any fucking idea what I'm doing, or I can't choose one, so I'm not gonna say anything at all.
So that's the dream preneur. Second one, shine preneur. So I always think about this person as a shiny object chaser, and you can literally, like you're having a conversation with someone who has got a shine preneur part up and [00:08:00] they're like, oh, just hang on a minute. Oh, and just hang on. And. It's like you can't get them to focus in the here and now.
Um, she chases clarity and chasing the next big, big idea. There's a fear underneath this of rejection. So choosing something and choosing to anchor into her internal knowing of what her next step is. That feels incredibly unsafe. So rather than checking in, she'll look out and go, oh, I need to try that strategy.
Oh, I need to, you know, change my brand colors. Oh, I need to do this. So she's afraid that being stuck in her head and over analyzing and never landing on the right opinion means she'll never have clarity, and if she doesn't have clarity, she won't be trusted, chosen, and credible. So that's the kind of rules of reality that she's running on.
So I fear rejection. And so I will create a pattern where I never actually, um, back myself because to back myself and then put myself out there and be [00:09:00] rejected is the worst fear possible. So her nervous system imprint is figuring out equal survival and analysis, overthinking, collecting other people's perspectives, so never actually trusting her felt sense.
Um, likes to, kind of similar to the dream preneur energy often kind of scattered up, up in the ether rather than in her body. Um. Those things are the safety mechanisms, right? So the collecting other people's perspectives. So it, it'll be the client that's like, you know, we're talking about all of the, and um, you know, we're in a session be like, okay, so what feels like the most, you know, what feels like the most juicy for you?
Or what feels like the most alive for you? Or whatever. And they might be able to check in and actually have a felt sense of that. And then what happens afterwards is they'll go and ask their husband their best friend, 58 clients. All of the opinions, it's almost like I need to outsource my decision making to you because I don't actually have any surety about my own safety to make the [00:10:00] expert.
Um, she will often, I. There's so many of, so many of these, um, anti entrepreneurs where this happens. But every time I press publish, I spiral. Wondering if I said too much often under charges because they don't actually fully kind of anchor into their own brilliance. Um, she often shifts, um, her message, she deletes the boldest lines because she doesn't wanna be rejected.
Right. So there's a really big, like, I don't wanna rock the boat here. I don't, I don't want to, I don't wanna say anything that could get me cut off from. The crowd in the next one is one that you'll all know very well. So the perfect printer, if you have any, what you would call perfectionist parts. I find this pattern is very alive in, um, people who have grown up with hypercritical, parents and or parents who had a very specific.
Like culture around what the [00:11:00] right way to behave or appear is like. So I'm thinking about the people that are like, they come from families where appearance and saying the right thing and going to the right schools and having the right piece of paper are the currency, right? So if you can think about like the underpinning fear here is exile or not belonging.
A perfect preneur has been trained that to be herself is unsafe and to be the way that people want her to be. Is the way that she gets accepted and feels a sense of belonging. So she's always afraid that her full expression will lead to exile. She's afraid that being truly heard will cost her connection and or safety says things like, if I say the wrong thing, I'll be misunderstood.
If I show up in my full voice, I'll be torn down or tuned out. Her nervous system is censorship, like putting herself out there as a full self and being censored equals a threat. So polished performance. Is the way she protects herself. This is the [00:12:00] person who before she will go live, before she posts, before she speaks from stage, she will have to have things to a standard of impossible perfection, which often means that she never feels ready, so she never actually does.
So she gets vulnerability hangovers. She doesn't wanna be misunderstood, so she doesn't share at all. Um, often this comes with a really hypercritical part, like hypercritical part, and, you know, I should say none of these parts that we're talking about or none of these learned limitations, none of them are formed to do US harm.
And this is where like when I see posts about just push on through or back yourself or go all in, I'm like, that's great if you're in self energy. But if you've got a really active part trying to run protection, and you try and push into them, guess what happens? They actually get bigger and louder and more forceful in your system.
These are parts that we need to, and this is why the book about them was called Making Friends with Fear. We need to [00:13:00] understand where they're coming from, what they're afraid of, and actually tend to them. Not push against them so they rebel and actually become stronger and more embedded as the go-to part that comes online.
When you go out into business, they'll often say hearing or seeing myself makes me feel physically sick. So definitely would not like, you know, I'm recording this in normal clothes. I don't have makeup on. It's just an ordinary day in my office. Um, I've never had a perfectionist part, which you probably can tell by the fact that every single one of my pieces of copy has a spelling mistake in it.
'cause I just, I don't care. I don't feel the need to be perfect. In fact, if you need perfect, I'm not your girl. Right? But if I was a perfect, well, perfect preneur. I would have to have my lighting precise. I would have to have the right clothing on, I would have to have my background perfect. I didn't even look at my background.
I dunno what's back there. Who knows? Um, everything would have to be perfect to be able to press record and even then [00:14:00] she will probably censor herself so much that I'll never see the light of day. Um, and this is the other thing, how I'm perceived is far more important than how satisfying my business feels.
And that's scary, right? Because guess where that leads you? A business that does not fit you and bleeds you dry energetically. And again, coming back to that power equation, if you think like the perfectionist part in you, if you are relating to that, if you say like, how, how much does it turn up in a day to day in business?
You know, how much power is it taking away from your full self-expression, unfiltered self-expression, you might say right now, 80%. So that means that when you can, like even if you were tending to this part, if she was still on board, you've got 20% of your full energy there. So you can imagine like people have a felt sense of how confident and calm and anchored you are in your own genius.
When, when I say the word magnetic. I am not talking about some [00:15:00] magical equation of perfect colors or even the right copy. I'm talking about the energy that people can feel when they see and feel and hear. It's all of those, you know, all of the tiny little things that our systems pick up of like, oh.
She's actually completely calm and centered in her own genius zone, which means I can feel safe around her. And for the people that resonate with you in your unapologetic truth, that shit is like catnip. Is catnip the right word? I don't know that's the word that's came to me, but like it's irresistible to your soulmate clients.
And here's the kicker. It is either actively or mildly repelling to the people that aren't. The best fit clients. And that is the thing that's the scariest for a perfect entrepreneur because they're like, I don't wanna offend anyone. I don't wanna feel like I'm not doing the right thing. Because again, they've got a code that they've lived with, which is like, I have to be a partic particular way for people to like me.
[00:16:00] Like that is the rule of reality. So you can imagine how much that gets in the way of unapologetic expression, and that also means that when you find people that resonate with you, when you are in perfect preneur energy, you have to continue. To fulfill that expectation. Like if you are resonating at, I have to be perfect and therefore you are energetically attracting people that want perfection.
Do you know how fucking exhausting that is? Oh my God. One of the most freeing things I decided to do in my business was a. Open like almost every single call or client interaction, number one, I swear I don't swear at people. I don't mean to have it be so much of my language, but that is me and my unapologetic self-expression.
So if that is not something that you vibe with, you're probably in the wrong room. And second, don't expect perfection. I'm just a messy, magical, raw, real human, having a human experience who happens to have an online business. Sometimes I'm gonna feel like fully with it and [00:17:00] switched on and like vibing, and some days I'm not and that is okay.
So when I gave myself permission to, to turn up imperfect and also swearing like a trucker, which I really wish wasn't my set point, but it is. I, what can I say then? The two things that I was most afraid people would judge me for have now been taken out of the equation because I've said it upfront. So, but if I'm trying to be perfect or very polished.
That takes up so much energy for me 'cause that is not my natural way of being in the world. Like you should have seen me this morning when I woke up. I wear an eye mask and earplugs to bed and I woke up this morning and obviously the way that I had lied all of my hair was in this massive big, like sideways left facing, I don't even know how you describe it.
Like Australians will know this reference like Yahoo, serious hair or like Einstein hair. And my eye mask was on the opposite ear. And my [00:18:00] husband's like, oh, I didn't know how lucky I'd be. And I'm just like, this is me. Take it or leave it. So anyway, I don't wanna keep on adding in stories here 'cause I wanna get through these.
So we've talked about dream preneur, uh, sh preneur. Perfect preneur. Now this one is the blur preneur. This is the other one that turns up for me sometimes. So there's a fear underneath this of not belonging, but it's not belonging and. It carries the energy of being a bit of a chameleon. So this fear kind of feels in my body, like if I'm my true self, I may not fit in.
Um, when I actually speak to other blur printers, there seems to be this pattern for us that we are actually often quite rebellious or status quo challenging. And so I guess. That comes with like being some, someone that doesn't fit into boxes naturally. I guess I'm just putting this together as I'm talking.
So [00:19:00] she will change her face. Her face, not her face. That would be weird. Um, her voice to fit in and then wonders why she feels lost. So, um, she's learned that love and acceptance are conditional on her, molding herself to other people's needs. Um, I can see where this came from in childhood 'cause I was a parentified child, so, um, I didn't really have a space to express my own needs.
So, of course, I don't have a, um, like I have a nervous system imprint of like fulfilling what other people need from me before I fulfill myself. Um, her nervous system says belonging. Belonging equals survival. And being visible as too different is the risk of exile. So for her, this shape-shifting chameleon is a semblance of safety.
I wouldn't say a true sense of safety because when I do that with, when I'm doing it from a self-awareness perspective, I walk away and I think, wow, I really abandoned myself there. Like I really like. [00:20:00] I turned myself into something that's actually not true for me. Now, I will also say the flip side, freedom of this pattern is that there is this freedom of being able to kind of almost morph into different versions of yourself and.
As long as fear is not driving that. Like that actually is quite fun. Like, you know, having lots of different friend groups. Um, for me part of that is having lots and lots of different careers. Like I used to be a scientist, then I was someone who trained pro professional speakers. Then I moved into, you know, there's all these different kind of facets of me.
Um, if it's from a place of authenticity and realness, there's no problem. But when it's driven by fear, that's when things get sticky and this is how it can feel. I dunno who I am. Yet. So I can't go into the marketplace. My voice feels inconsistent or off, or I keep chopping and changing my opinion on things, which is actually another freedom.
Um, I change my brand or my bio every few months. Um, nothing ever feels [00:21:00] real to me. I can't get traction. I tell myself I'm multi-passionate, but honestly, I'm just. Afraid of choosing one direction. Now again, you can be really multi-passionate. So don't, don't kind of mistake me for saying if you're multi-passionate, there's something wrong.
'cause I do not believe that at all. What I do think is that sometimes when I hear a client say, I'm multi-passionate, so I can't like pick one thing, what I'm sensing is that is actually a protective mechanism, not something that is real to the whole, you know, human that's in front of me. All right. How many have we done?
We've done four. I'm going to le No, we'll do one more in this episode. So the para, I always have, um, particular people like either friends or clients, and they're always very de-identified. Obviously. That kind of were the introduction to me. I feel like I've received these in. Layers of [00:22:00] patterns, and I've always been fascinated by human behavior, right?
And what makes people tick. And also from a genetic perspective, like how different each individual is, but then patterns of behavior, you know, neuros, sparkly, brains love, love, pattern spotting. And each time another layer has been revealed to me, there has been an introductory, like a person that has shown me.
The pattern and then it's made everything else go tick, tick, tick, tick, tick. It's like chiropractic adjustment of my awareness of like, oh, this is that pattern and it, I've seen it in this person and this person and this person. So the compar always reminds me of a really good friend of mine and one of her things is.
Always, always, always measuring herself against someone else. So comparisonitis, you know, and comparisonitis, like really, if you have a compar part part, the very worst thing you can do is get on social media and scroll because it will a hundred percent of the time show you how [00:23:00] everybody else knows more than you and everybody else has a better life and a better business and more clients and more cash flow than you.
And so this comparator has this. External observer in her mind that is always comparing her performance slash worth slash Yeah. Goodness. Compared to someone else. So, and you know, how can you ever measure up, right? Because you are an individual, you're a unicorn. So how can you compare? Unicorn you to unicorn her?
It's like comparing an apple to a pineapple. Like they're both delicious in their own right, but. An apple is never gonna be a pineapple, and pineapple is never gonna be an apple. Like that's just not gonna happen. Like they're two different fruit, right? They have different, different flavors, different preferences.
Um, so the coffee underneath this is not measuring up. So it is very much like it is one version of a not good enough coffee. And, you know, in mindset, um, coaching, we would always bring this back down to the three core fears, which is fear of not [00:24:00] belonging, fear of not, um, being loved and fear of not being loved.
Fear of not belonging. Oh, in fear of not being good enough, oh my God, I just had a brain fart. That's hilarious. So, um, she's afraid that if I'm not as good or polished as successful as her or him, whoever she's comparing herself to, they, whatever pronoun it is, then she'll be dismissed or unseen or left behind.
She has been taught in her family that her worth is conditional. So you are allowed to get feedback to say, you are good, you are loved, you're accepted if you act this way. But everything outside of that does not get you access to that. So very conditional, must be earned, must be proved, must be competing, must be outperforming nervous system.
Imprint is love, recognition, safety and comparison. And measuring herself to external measures of success equals [00:25:00] safety. So that is, well, sorry, equals survival equals her way of keeping herself safe in slowing down. And honoring her own innate self-worth without proving feels dangerous. So this, there is never a part of a comparer that can say, you know what?
I did that. Like, I'm proud of myself. Like I. I feel like I stretched into that and I really, really turned up as my full self. They will never, ever, ever celebrate or see what they can do in business, which is such a shame because the flip side of this is such a big strength. Um, the things that a compar entrepreneur can do, I can be saying is if I can't be the best, why even bother showing up?
She's already nailed it. Um, what I observe most. Is that these people have no ability to look inside and really connect to that wise woman and the soul of the business and decide from an internal perspective how to [00:26:00] move, how to sell, how to package offers, how to write a website. And so often they're like second rate copies of someone they admire.
And so. Again, when your soulmate clients are out there and they're looking for you, you and your full expression, but you are going into the marketplace pretending to or borrowing somebody else's strategy website, way of doing things, you're just a, like a copy and paste of someone else's energy, which you are not here to express.
And so there becomes, there's a dissonance, right? So you might want to work with these amazing soulmate clients, but they can't even see you. They can't feel you. They can't. Perceive you because you've got so much of other people's stuff on top of you that they, like you're hidden in plain sight. Um, she also has a bit of a, um.
Nobody will take me seriously until I work harder or study more or get another piece of paper. So they are perpetual [00:27:00] paper qualification, certification gatherers. The other thing I'll say, like I said before, I'm just gonna check in on my competitors to see what they're up to. Gets on a phone, starts scrolling, and then she's in a free state for hours, days, weeks, months, fill in the time period here.
Okay, that is our anti entrepreneurs for this episode. Come back for part three. I will tell you about the last four, and I'll also tell you how you can access the quiz, um, and get information on the flip side of your freedom archetype.
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