Here’s the thing about your business: someone is always driving the bus.
Sometimes it’s your wild woman Self - the clear, rooted, unapologetic energy that knows exactly who she is and what she’s here to say. Other times, it’s the scared parts - the protectors, the managers, the hustlers, the perfectionists - gripping the wheel so tight your knuckles turn white.
And let’s be real: most of us spend more time letting fear drive than we’d like to admit. I know I did.
Because that’s the thing about fears, blocks and learned limitations - until we’re consciously aware of these old stuck points and stories, they’re running us on autopilot under cover in the subconscious.
How to Tell Who’s at the Wheel
When learned limitation is driving the business bus, your internal environment feels urgent, constricted, frantic, panicked or stuck in quicksand.
This can feel like grippy, graspy, pushy energy from a space of adrenalised flight or fight energy or like freeze, shutdown, and dissociation from a space of cannot go there, so must check out or escape - depending on your nervous system’s thermostat or set point.
In hyped up, adrenalised mode fear could push you to
- Panic launching another offer rapid fire because you’re last launch flopped and you have no freaking idea where next month’s cashflow is coming from - and that grippy energy is like kryptonite to your soulmate clients
- Find it difficult to take time out - so you’re always acting from scattered, harried, rushed energy - with no connection to your truth and majesty in sight or
- Madly skip from certification to certification, coach to coach, program to program - in a desperate big to finally, magically feel “enough” to just put yourself out there and share your gifts
And in the flipside freeze or fawn, flat energy state
- Find yourself doom scrolling for hours, endlessly measuring against that coach or this expert… numbing your own gifts and genius through the lens of never going to be successful “like her”, so you’re completely unable to take any action from your Self.
- Polishing, perfecting, "professionalising" ad infinitum, so your offer suite, your business model, even the posts you share feel so ho-hum boring … your uniqueness is lost in the process
- Your fawning people pleaser has you overstepping boundaries, discounting offers, offering more and more support, stuffing programs with more and more ‘stuff’ in a big to feel loved and accepted by your clients or
- Stuck in a pattern of oh so many ideas and super inspired but never ever choosing one thing to bring down and make manifest in this plane - I am looking at your visionary healers and helpers with your head in the clouds, but not enough grounding to share with us down here
Fear can sneakily disguise itself as “responsible,” “strategic,” or “professional,” but underneath it’s just your nervous system trying to keep you safe.
When your wild woman authentic self is in the driver’s seat, it feels radically different:
- Grounded, spacious, open-hearted.
- Fierce without being frantic.
- Boundaried and bold.
- Clear, creative, and deeply connected.
If we were to use the Internal Family System Language of Richard Schwatrz, we would use the 8 Cs of the Authentic Self to recognise the wild woman: curious, compassionate, courageous, connected, clam, confident, clear, creative.
Wild woman energy isn’t loud for the sake of it. She’s not gripping or grasping or tuning herself inside out for a sale.
She’s connected to her truth, naturally aligned to her values and is unapologetic about who she is and what she brings to the table.
She’s regulated, rooted, and reverent with her truth.
When she’s in the driver’s seat, you can feel the difference in your bones.
Can you remember the last time she was in the driver’s seat?
Enter the Visibility Block Fear Frames
Here’s the kicker: when fear drives, it doesn’t just slam the brakes or take wrong turns. It warps your entire view of the road.
I call these warps or energetic pathways Fear Frames - invisible lenses that distort how you see yourself, your business, and your next move - and totally screw with your ability to be seen, heard and recognised for your gifts.
Through a Fear Frame:
- A simple launch feels like life or death.
- Feedback feels like rejection.
- Silence feels like failure.
- Visibility feels like danger.
Fear Frames make every decision heavier than it is. They shrink possibilities down to survival choices, so of course you play small.
When fear is in the driver’s seat, there’s no room for creativity, for synchronicity or for the universe to deliver a divinely guided next step.. You’re limited to the narrow lens of that which feels safe, doable, acceptable - so you’re stuck and stalled at the same set point you’ve been at for years, even decades, before..
What It Looks Like in Real Life: Let me share my own Vomiting to Visibility Story
I promised myself I’d go live every day to promote SEEN - my first voice and visibility activation back in November 2024.
I put it off for days, but I’d made a commitment and my wild woman was insisting that this was the next step in my personal and professional evolution. I kicked, I resisted, I procrastinated until I ran out of excuses.
When the moment came, my nervous system was in such a fear state - I literally vomited.
I had to lay down flat on the floor, belly down, taking deep breaths, trying to regulate myself enough to let my small and scared parts know they were safe, that even though for some illogical reason going live felt scarier than speaking on stage to literally thousands in my early career
we were going to survive … together, with her in the passenger seat and the wild woman me at the wheel.
Then - still shaky and sweating - I hit “Go Live.”
That one decision cracked everything open. Because I stopped waiting to feel ready. I let people see me raw, messy, alive.
I stopped letting an old learned limitation stop me in the here and now - and instead of shutting down I practised leaning IN, with the energetic and emotional capacity building tools I teach at the ready and a determination to break the spell.
The result?
An epic launch, 200 rebel entrepreneurs in a live event I know in my heart changed the entire trajectory of my business and life - which has created more than $117k AUD in sales and counting from a $33 event.
All from that one moment I took a conscious breath - offered that fear some tending - and still took the imperfect action that terrified me.
See the pattern? When fear drives, we can freeze, overdo, or abandon ourselves.
When your wild woman authentic Self drives, you take imperfect, embodied action - and people feel the true you.
And that magic is magnetic af.
Recalibrating Your Set Point
This isn’t about forcing a breakthrough or muscling past fear. It’s about recalibrating. Your system can learn a new normal - a set point where visibility feels safer and more spacious - no matter how ingrained the pattern has been.
Think tiny steps, repeated often:
- Notice the moment a Fear Frame flickers on. That’s a win. Being conscious means you can choose.
- Soften your body a notch - a slower exhale, a sip of water, a hand on your heart saying “You’re ok, I’m here”
- Choose the smallest next action that doesn’t spike your system - one sentence posted, one price boundary held, one invitation sent.
- Repeat until your body recognises this as safe. Safety expands with practice.
- Remind yourself there is nothing to prove here. No perfection required. You are not behind.
You are teaching your nervous system a kinder rhythm so your voice can come through clear and true and it takes time and attention to gently shift that natural set point - so you don’t get to make yourself wrong if it takes as long as it takes, right?
This is exactly why I created my Voice + Visibility Activation for Rebel Entrepreneurs - SEEN and ROAR Live and made them super accessible for under $55.
I wanted these tools in the hands of the paradigm-shifters, the wild, witchy, woo, rebellious, creative, often neuro divergents amongst us sharing their out of the box, unapologetic truth + unadulterated genius with the world.
I believe we are the future humans
We’re here to pave new pathways of how we live, love, learn and lead.
But we can’t do that if we’re still trying to shame and tame ourselves to fit into the old paradigm boxes that have taught us our natural way of moving through the world is somehow flawed.
At the time of writing this post, more than 600 entrepreneurs from around the world have either joined me live or grabbed these SEEN and ROAR LIVE activations as instant downloads.
That means there are 600 more rebels out there, rippling their magic, claiming their power, reclaiming their sovereignty - so they can get the fck on with changing the world.
Inside these activations, II share simple, easy to access, and gentle nervous system tools that help recalibrate your set point for being seen + heard + recognised as a paradigm-shifter - practices you can use in 60 to 120 seconds to come back to center and build safety step by tiny step.
That is how the set point shifts.
That is how freedom grows.
Why This Matters for Voice + Visibility
Because your soulmate clients can feel the difference.
Fear-led messaging is showy, polished, safe, vanilla. It blends in. It’s forgettable. It’s just more fade-into-the-static in an already noisy marketplace.
Wild woman-led messaging?
It’s alive. It’s raw. It stops people mid-scroll because it carries resonance, reverence, relatability because it’s real + it’s raw.
And in a sea of beige boring, that magenta, sparkly, star shaped, unicorn frequency is utterly irresistible.
This is the Unapologetic Truth = Irresistible Magnetism equation at work:
the more you you are, the more ease-fully you’re seen, heard, and recognised by the soulmate clients, collaborators, and connections you’re actually here for.
And here’s the kicker: being anything but yourself is exhausting. It eats energy just to maintain the mask.
But when you bring all that power home - to simply being you - you free up everything. Energy, creativity, flow.
You finally get to move, express, and build the way you were designed to.
That’s the heartbeat of your visibility. Not just being seen - but being seen just being YOU!
What Comes Next
In Part 4 of The How to Breakthrough Visibility Blocks in Entrepreneurship Series: Meet the Fear of Success, Fear of Rejection, Fear of Exile, Fear of Not Belonging + Fear of Not Being Good Enough Visibility Fears, we’re going to meet the first five Anti-Entrepreneurs in action.
You’ll see exactly how these patterns sabotage creative, rebellious entrepreneurs and keep their voices muted - and why knowing the archetype is the first step in reclaiming your freedom and expanding your capacity to be seen, heard and richly rewarded - just for being you.
Curious which Anti-Entrepreneur is running your business right now?
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Want the tools to begin turning visibility fear into visibility freedom?
👉 Grab ROAR Live (On Demand) - a three-session voice + visibility reclamation which teaches how to shift from visibility fear to visibility freedom - through the lens of Human Design. Grab instant access for $33 USD.
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